Find Your WHY

July 25, 2020  

When You Find Your Why You Find a Way to Make it Happen

If you’ve tried to lose weight before but never succeeded in keeping it off, then you probably haven’t worked out why you want to lose weight.

Of course, you want to look better, wear that dress, be healthier, feel better, and feel more confident. But why do you really want to lose the weight?


I’m going to explain why it’s so important to understand why you really want to lose weight.

Why You Need to Find Your ‘WHY’

Your why is more than the reason you say you want to lose weight. Your why is what will keep you going in tough times. Finding your why will mean you will:

  • be able to get out of bed and get to training, even on the days you don’t feel like it;
  • choose to go for a walk instead of lazing on the lounge;
  • make time to prepare your food ahead of time (yes, I mean healthy, delicious food), even in the busy weeks;
  • keep working to create new and better habits, no matter how long it will take;
  • get out of your comfort zone and do things that scare you or are uncomfortable;
  • keep looking for ways to grow and develop;
  • put in the hard work, even when you don’t want to;
  • avoid getting complacent;
  • stop making excuses for why you can’t do things;
  • be able to keep going, when all you want to do is give up.

Your why must be personal. It must be strong. And it must be bigger than you.

How Do You Find Your ‘WHY’?

Finding your why takes time and work, but once you have it, everything becomes easier. You’ll have a new perspective on your health and fitness journey, and you’ll begin to see value in things you never did before. You’ll also gain a kind of peace about losing weight, because you’ll see a purpose in the things you have to do. You’ll understand that there are deeper, more meaningful reasons to lose weight than to just look good.

But how do you find your why?

  1. Start by writing down everything you want to achieve or have, by losing weight. It can be anything - just write it down - make a list.
  2. With everything on your list, ask yourself why you want that particular thing. What will it give you? Why is that important? Write it down.
  3. With every answer you come up with, ask the same thing again. What will that give you? Why is it important?
  4. Keep asking, until you can’t ask the question anymore.

What you’ll be left with are your deep, very personal reasons you’re doing this. And I guarantee, it will be deeper and more meaningful than ‘fitting into that dress for summer’.

Sounds a bit confronting doesn’t it. You bet! Yes it is hard to do, but if it was easy, everyone would be doing it and would have achieved what they wanted to achieve!

Here is an example from Jane. Jane is a time-poor Mum who has primary school aged kids and works 3 days a week. She has listed her top 3 reasons why she wants to embark on a health and fitness journey (aka a transformation):

1. To lose weight.

2. To be a good role model for the kids.

3. To comfortably wear a size 12.

Now let’s break them down.

To Lose Weight

“Why do you want to lose weight?"

"I don’t want to get sick with cancer or diabetes or some other illness.”


"I don’t want to spend time and money in doctor’s rooms or in the hospital, or want to take medication for the rest of my life.”


“I as I get older I want to spend time and money on the things that will give me pleasure.”


“I want to enjoy my retirement and travel or spend time with grandkids.”


“I want to be happy and free to do what I want to do.”


“I don’t want to have to worry about dying early or dying a painful death.”


“I don’t want to live a life of restriction due to bad health or lack of mobility.”


“I don’t want to be a burden on my kids’ lives because I am sick.”


“I want them to live a fulfilling lives without having to look after me."

Wanting to lose weight boils down to not needing to worry about her health and how it might impact her kids.

To Be a Good Role Model for the Kids

"Why do you want to be a good role model for your kids?”

“So I can stop parenting from the sidelines because I’m ashamed of how I look.”


“So I can have a good relationship with them and be involved in their lives more.”


“So I can inspire them.”


“So I can show them they can do and be anything they want.”


“So they won’t be miserable and have to go through what I did.”


“So they can live a good life and do the things they want to do.”


“So that I’ll never have to worry about them getting in with the wrong crowd, not being resilient, nor being able to stand up for themselves.”


“So that they will live happy, fulfilled lives and will value how I helped them."


“So that I will feel loved.”

Wanting to be a role model for her kids boils down to wanting to be loved and free from worrying about them making bad choices.

To Comfortably Wear a Size 12

“Why do you want to wear a size 12?"

“So I can stop buying clothes that cover my body and finally wear the clothes I want to wear.”


"So I can feel confident in my own body.”


“So I can feel proud of myself."


“So I can stop being afraid to be seen looking like I do.”


“So I can stop feeling embarrassed, ashamed and guilty for being overweight.”


“So I can attend social events feeling confident.”


“So people won’t look at me and think I’m overweight.”


“So I won’t be judged and talked about.”


“So I can be accepted and loved.”


“Because I don’t accept and love myself.”

Wanting to wear a size 12 boils down to wanting to love herself and be loved by others.

Now we have something strong and powerful to hold onto. Something that will help her keep working towards her goals, especially when motivation is low.

Find your WHY to Find Your HOW

Losing weight and changing your body shape isn’t always easy. There are countless reasons why you’ll say you can’t do it:

  • I can’t afford it,
  • I don’t have time,
  • I don’t know what to do,
  • Nothing works for me,
  • This is my natural body shape,
  • I have a bad knee/back/ankle,
  • I don’t have time to exercise,
  • I’m not ready,
  • I’m not a morning person,
  • I’m too busy,
  • I’m not that bad for my age,
  • Work takes too much of my time,
  • Etc.

But the reality is if you know your why, you’ll find your how. If you can’t find your how, your why isn’t strong enough.

I’ll say that again…

If you know your why, you’ll find your how. If you can’t find your how, your why isn’t strong enough.

If you’ve been making excuses as to why you’re not doing what you need to do, or you’re quick to give up when things get tough, then you haven’t found your why.

When You Find Your Why, You Find a Way to Make it Happen

If you want to lose weight but haven’t found your why, let’s meet up for a coffee or have a Zoom meeting. Maybe I can help dig through the layers to get to the heart of your why - the why that will help you get started on the path to permanent change.

Also have a think about doing my FREE fat-loss e-Course. It is 6 days of great information delivered straight to your inbox and will point you in the right direction so you can ditch the diets and reclaim your health and vitality.

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